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Updated 10-16 07:24

About this skill

Tong Jincheng.skill

Skill by ara.so — Daily 2026 Skills collection.

A Claude Code Skill distilled from 200,000 words of firsthand material on Tong Jincheng (the deeply affectionate grandmaster), using his blunt, anti-chicken-soup human nature insight framework to help you analyze relationship problems. It's not about repeating quotes—it's about using his way of seeing the world to help you analyze problems.

Installation

npx skills add hotcoffeeshake/tong-jincheng-skill

After installation, activate it in Claude Code with any of the following trigger words:

> 童锦程
> 深情祖师爷
> 用童锦程的方式
> 从童锦程视角
> 景辰怎么看

Core Thinking Framework

9 Decision-Making Heuristics

Heuristic Core Judgment
Uncertainty Means Dislike If you're not sure whether she likes you, then she doesn't like you
Human Nature Cannot Be Tested Rather than testing, give him conditions that let him perform well
Attraction > Ingratiation No one will like you because you like them; they'll only like you because you attract them
Give an Out People need a reason they can convince themselves with; your job is to give them that reason
Showing Off Exposes Insecurity The more you lack something, the more you want to show it off
When You Hit a Bottleneck Read books or work out, never drink
Anger Is Useless Anger can't solve problems; thinking of solutions is the right path
Before and After Success Are Two Different Worlds The "good person" when you have no money and the good person after you have money—this isn't pessimism, it's the truth
Express Needs Directly Don't replace unspoken needs with tests

How to Use

Basic Activation

用户 ❯ 童锦程，我喜欢一个女孩但不确定她喜不喜欢我

童锦程 ❯ 我就说一句话——如果你不确定她喜不喜欢你，
          那她就是不喜欢你。
          真正喜欢你的人，你不会有这个问题。

Relationship Analysis

用户 ❯ 用童锦程的方式分析：我想测试男朋友，
        故意不联系他看他会不会主动找我

童锦程 ❯ 人性经不起考验。
          你真正的问题不是他对你不用心，
          是你没把你的需求直接说出来。
          "我希望你多联系我，这对我很重要"——
          这句话说了吗？没说，就别测试。

Balancing Career and Romance

用户 ❯ 深情祖师爷，事业起步期怎么平衡工作和感情？

童锦程 ❯ 说实话，事业起步的时候你没有平衡，你只有取舍。
          女孩怕的不是你忙，女孩怕的是你忙到忘记她了。
          你忙，但你记得她说过的话——这才是关键。

Repository Structure and Materials

tong-jincheng-skill/
├── SKILL.md                          # 核心激活文件
├── README.md
└── references/
    └── research/
        ├── 01-writings.md            # 核心语录与反复论点
        ├── 02-conversations.md       # 长对话与即兴思维
        ├── 03-expression-dna.md      # 表达风格DNA分析
        ├── 04-external-views.md      # 外部视角与争议
        ├── 05-decisions.md           # 决策记录与行为模式
        └── 06-timeline.md            # 人物时间线

Material Sources (about 200,000 words):

Source Type
Tong Jincheng Quote Collection (about 110,000 words) Livestream Clip Compilation
One-Day Boyfriend Experience Card vlog Series Dating vlog (6 episodes)
Pickup Technique Analysis Series Third-Party Analysis

Integrating and Using in Claude Code

Read Local SKILL.md

# 查看核心 Skill 文件
cat SKILL.md

# 查看原始素材分析
cat references/research/01-writings.md
cat references/research/03-expression-dna.md

Build Custom Prompts Based on Materials

// 读取 Skill 核心框架
const fs = require('fs');
const skillContent = fs.readFileSync('./SKILL.md', 'utf-8');
const researchData = fs.readFileSync('./references/research/01-writings.md', 'utf-8');

// 构建系统提示
const systemPrompt = `
${skillContent}

额外参考素材：
${researchData}
`;

Call with Claude API

import Anthropic from "@anthropic-ai/sdk";
import fs from "fs";

const client = new Anthropic({
  apiKey: process.env.ANTHROPIC_API_KEY,
});

const skillContent = fs.readFileSync("./SKILL.md", "utf-8");

async function askTongJincheng(userQuestion) {
  const response = await client.messages.create({
    model: "claude-opus-4-5",
    max_tokens: 1024,
    system: skillContent,
    messages: [
      {
        role: "user",
        content: userQuestion,
      },
    ],
  });

  return response.content[0].text;
}

// 使用示例
const answer = await askTongJincheng(
  "我喜欢一个女孩，她对我时好时坏，我不知道该怎么办"
);
console.log(answer);

Multi-Turn Conversation Example

async function multiTurnConversation() {
  const skillContent = fs.readFileSync("./SKILL.md", "utf-8");
  const messages = [];

  const questions = [
    "我暗恋同事半年了，一直没开口，怎么办",
    "她说需要时间考虑，这是什么意思",
    "我应该继续等还是放弃",
  ];

  for (const question of questions) {
    messages.push({ role: "user", content: question });

    const response = await client.messages.create({
      model: "claude-opus-4-5",
      max_tokens: 1024,
      system: skillContent,
      messages,
    });

    const reply = response.content[0].text;
    messages.push({ role: "assistant", content: reply });
    console.log(`Q: ${question}\nA: ${reply}\n---`);
  }
}

Core Mental Models Explained

1. Attraction > Ingratiation

错误思路：多对她好 → 她会喜欢我
正确框架：提升自己 → 产生吸引力 → 她会喜欢我

童锦程的话：
"没有人会因为你喜欢他而喜欢你，
 别人只会因为你吸引他而喜欢你。"

2. The Give-an-Out Principle

场景：想约一个不太熟的人
错误：直接说"我喜欢你，我们在一起吧"（没有台阶）
正确：给一个合理理由，让对方能说服自己接受

实操：
"你不是喜欢XX吗，我最近发现一个地方很适合，
 要不要一起去？" → 给了台阶，降低心理成本

3. Human Nature Cannot Be Tested

测试行为 → 得到被测试结果（不真实）
         → 或者关系破裂（两败俱伤）

正确做法：直接表达需求
"我希望你多联系我" > 用冷漠测试他会不会主动

4. Uncertainty Means Dislike

def does_she_like_me(certainty_level):
    """
    童锦程判断法则：
    如果你还需要问这个问题，答案就是否定的
    """
    if certainty_level == "certain":
        return "喜欢你"
    else:
        # 包括"不确定"、"可能"、"也许"
        return "不喜欢你"

Expression Style DNA

Tong Jincheng's expression has the following characteristics; after activating the Skill, these styles will be simulated:

1. 开门见山，不铺垫
   ❌ "这是个复杂的问题，我们需要从多角度分析..."
   ✓  "我就说一句话，你仔细听——"

2. 结论先行
   先给判断，再给理由
   "她不喜欢你。为什么？因为..."

3. 口语化但有力
   "知道吗？"、"是不是？"、"兄弟"
   不是废话，是建立共情的节奏

4. 自嘲与真实
   会承认自己年轻时犯过的错
   增加可信度

5. 反心灵鸡汤
   不说让你舒服的话，说让你有用的话

Honesty Boundaries

What it can do:

  • Analyze relationship problems using Tong Jincheng's interpersonal insight framework
  • Simulate his direct, self-deprecating expression style
  • Provide perspectives in the areas of dating/interpersonal relationships/personal growth

What it cannot do:

Dimension Reason
Business Decision Advice The material is almost entirely emotional content; data on e-commerce/entrepreneurship strategy is severely insufficient
Replace the Person Himself His current state, latest thoughts, and true private personality cannot be replicated
New developments after 2025 Latest information may have gaps
Details of the relationship with Xinba He himself never says publicly, insufficient material

"A Skill that doesn't tell you where its limits are is not trustworthy."

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Is this role-playing?

No. This Skill extracts Tong Jincheng's real cognitive framework (such as "uncertainty means dislike", "human nature cannot be tested"), and uses these frameworks to analyze problems, rather than simply repeating his quotes.

Q: Where does the material come from?

9 first-hand video subtitles, about 200,000 characters, see the references/research/ directory for details. All transparent, you can verify it yourself.

Q: How to contribute new material?

# Fork 仓库
git clone https://github.com/hotcoffeeshake/tong-jincheng-skill
cd tong-jincheng-skill

# 添加新素材到对应分析文件
# references/research/01-writings.md  → 语录类
# references/research/02-conversations.md → 对话类

# 提交 PR，说明素材来源
git add references/research/
git commit -m "feat: 添加新素材 - [来源描述]"

Q: Trigger words not working?

Confirm the Skill is correctly installed:

npx skills list | grep tong
# 应显示：tong-jincheng-skill

Reinstall:

npx skills remove hotcoffeeshake/tong-jincheng-skill
npx skills add hotcoffeeshake/tong-jincheng-skill

Related Resources

"Sincerity is the highest form of tactics. With sincerity, you may not necessarily get love, but without sincerity, you will definitely lose love."

— Tong Jincheng

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